Alicia Outcalt has been providing counseling and trainings since 1993. She is a clinical instructor for UCSD Department of psychiatry and provides consultation and training for other clinicians.
Therapy is often seen as necessity when things feel like they are falling apart but therapy can also be a wonderful tool to maximize your strengths, reconnect with your own values and goals, and to minimize the burden that can subtly accumulate from seemingly minor incidents.
I believe that therapy can help someone get back to a better version of themselves. Life incidents can inadvertently blow someone off their true course. I believe that everyone has strengths and the capacity for self healing. This self healing capacity can be thwarted by the accumulated burdens of life.
A therapist is like a sports coach. Take a moment to think of a great sports figure, someone with natural abilities and good at their sport. Someone perhaps like Michael Jordan, who benefited from coaching not because he did not know what he was doing, but because we can all use someone whose job it is to maximize our own potential, to look at our “game” from the sidelines, to give us feedback from a different perspective, and to remind us of things we already know but may forget to apply at critical times. In this way therapy can not only help with true pathology but can also help to optimize the sense of self and our life navigation.
It is difficult to open up to a complete stranger and yet there can be safety and comfort in knowing that this is a stranger whose sole purpose is to help you improve your life. The fact that it is a stranger also means that they do not have another vested interest in your life. This is why it is important that your therapist is not your friend, a family member, or has any other relationship with you outside of being your therapist. Your therapist is in YOUR corner and is there just for YOU. Therapist have professional ethics and regulations to keep this therapeutic relationship safe, healthy, and beneficial. If you have concerns about your therapist behavior it is recommended that you talk about it with your therapist and/or consider calling their corresponding licensing board. You are investing a lot of time, energy, and money in therapy and you deserve to have a therapist who you feel comfortable with, where you are treated with respect. This does not mean that the therapist is always going to say things that you want to hear. A therapist my respectfully challenge your perceptions or actions when they may be in conflict with your own stated values, goals, or they present a danger to others. (Code of Ethics Privacy and Confidentiality)
Therapy can help you clarify your own values and goals. It can help you gain insight over your reactions to situations, help you identify and develop new coping skills and identify barriers to your own success. It can also be about helping you deal with difficult people or circumstances, to cope with illness in yourself or a family member.
If you already have insight into your issues, and already know the behavior and coping that should be helping you, but you still feel stuck, you still find yourself emotionally or physically reacting to things in a way that you “know better”, then EMDR may be a helpful approach. EMDR helps you to do deeper level work with to bring your automated reactions more in line with what you intellectually already know. (for more information go to www.emdr.com and www.emdria.org )
Empece mi carrera en 1993 en programas educativos en los temas de violencia domestica y assalto sexual en la universidad de UC, San Diego. Desde entonces e trabajado con madres solteras, mujeres embarazadas, familias adoptivas, enfermedades mentales, la adicción, el trauma, incluso trabajando con personas homosexuales y el transexualismo.
La terapia es diseñada individualmente para cada persona según sus metas y sus necesidades. Es importante entender lo que a cada persona le ha pasado, lo que ha funcionado y lo que sigue siendo problemático. Hay varias terapias que se pueden combinar para tener un mejor impacto.
EMDR / Desensibilización y Reprocesamiento por medio de los Movimientos Oculares. Este tratamiento avanzado ayudara al individuo en una manera profunda que puede resultar con cambios neurobilogicos.
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